Mental health support: Young Geelong Blake Hucker’s touching act before he took his own life

A young Australian who suffered a tragic spiral left his family with an incredible surprise before taking his own life.

The brother of a young man who took his own life after a heartbreaking downward spiral has opened up about his brother’s incredible acts of kindness – even in his darkest times – and shared an important message about men’s mental health.

Blake Hucker, 22, killed himself in Geelong, south-west of Melbourne, on March 22 as an internal battle engulfed him after he was allegedly treated and sexually assaulted aged 15.

Due to the nature of what happened to Blake, his brother believes he felt “weak and helpless”. So he embarked on a new passion by becoming a gym enthusiast.

His devastated family say Blake fell into the wrong crowd after the incident, saying he looked up to a group of men he met at the gym who led him down a path of drug use and recreational steroids.

“And then, while he was in the gym, he met people who introduced him to enhancement drugs, and they also did recreational drugs,” Jordan said.

“So the relationship with them became what he thought was like a strong brotherly connection with this group of strong men, like it kind of empowered him.”

Blake began taking steroids and strong stimulants like ice cream, and Jordan said he noticed his brother adopting the same mannerisms as his new circle of friends.

“Even his speech has changed a bit,” he said. “I think he idolized those people, because they showed him something he was missing.”

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Those were years that saw his mental health decline at a worrying rate – as he battled PTSD from alleged grooming as a teenager, and drug-induced schizophrenia and borderline personality disorder.

His brother Jordan – who is speaking out because he wants to highlight the importance for young men and members of the LGBTQIA+ community to seek help, stick to it and find the right circles of support – said that even in Blake’s darkest moments, he was able to show his true nature.

He told news.com.au it was a message of kindness and compassion.

From his earliest years, Jordan said his brother was a “compassionate and artistic kid.”

“He grew up very selfless,” he said. “He was always there to help people who were bullied at school. It was one of his virtues.

“He was always standing up for people. He was diagnosed with dyslexia at school, so he thought school was very difficult. And instead of being mad at school, he would somehow use his energy to help people around him.

Blake managed to keep another job while volunteering at a wildlife reserve for as long as he could, but his brother said “the trauma and the pressure just happened to him”.

It wasn’t long before Blake’s mental health issues steadily worsened.

Jordan said Blake’s schizophrenia made it seem like his brother was living a dream he was unaware of. However, he said his brother was “exceptionally good at hiding it”.

“He got better and better over time to be able to fully internalize things, and then he just presented himself as someone who was improving,” he said.

“He was happy and he brought joy to everyone around him through his darkest times.”

It wasn’t until this week that his family found out about one of Blake’s last incredible acts of kindness.

They received an email from a jeweler in Geelong saying they had something to buy for the family. When they arrived at the store on Wednesday, they were presented with Blake’s mother’s engagement ring.

One of Blake’s passions in life was jewelry. And, the morning of the day he committed suicide – totally unknown to his family – he had taken the ring to have it repaired at the store.

A diamond had fallen out of the ring, and despite everything that came to mind, he wanted it fixed for his mother. Blake and her mother shared a very special bond, which her brother said words cannot accurately describe.

Besides having a green thumb, Blake also had an affinity for wildlife. One year he found a featherless bird in the family garage. Blake then hand-raised and tamed the house sparrow, which has become a fantastic pet.

Blake knew he needed help but had to wait nearly 12 months to receive mental health support from a local service due to overwhelming demand.

Jordan said the support from Jigsaw (a local youth mental health service) and staff was nothing short of outstanding, but in the end it was too late.

After Blake’s death, the family found themselves in great debt, and her parents had to remortgage their home, to pay off loan sharks and other organizations that profited from her mental illness. Blake’s psychosis also led to other poor financial decisions, fueled by access to easy money, from dodgy financial brokers.

“Blake didn’t want to get involved in any of this, he was just looking deeply for the bond of strength. He idolized those he thought were strong people, but they just took advantage of him”

In telling his brother’s story, Jordan said he wanted to highlight the importance – especially for young men who are often reluctant – of seeking help and finding the right circle of support. And, to stick with it if it seems like it’s not working or it’s too overwhelming.

“As difficult as it is for men and especially young men these days to ask for help for the first time, it is important that you persevere, to find the right circle of support,” he said. declared.

The family also wants to encourage members of the LGBTQIA+ community to seek help, as Blake also struggled with his sexual identity as a teenager and as an adult.

“We hope Blake’s story will encourage men to speak up and seek help and hopefully help change the stigma around the subject,” Jordan said.

The family wishes to highlight and raise awareness of the lack of suitable alternative holistic housing and treatment facilities in place for people struggling with mental health issues.

“These places were depressing for family members, I could only imagine what it would be like for patients,” Blake’s mother said.

“Blake received his long-standing NDIS plan in the mail just before he passed away. It’s something the family has struggled with for a very long time,” he said. “Additional evidence, psychiatric reports delayed access to much needed support.

“As my aunt and I both have industry experience, we identified challenges in obtaining NDIS plans with many young people presenting with mental health as their primary diagnosis.”

Jordan has set up a GoFundMe page to help ease the financial and emotional hardship of Blake’s death – and potentially start an organization to help those in need.

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