Heart 2 Heart nature retreat brings moms and daughters together
The relationship between a mother and her daughter is one of the most important relationships in a woman’s life, but it can also be one of the most difficult, especially with teenage girls. That’s why Susie Kincade, nature-oriented life coach and co-founder of the Women’s Empowerment Movement at Vail, created the Heart 2 Heart retreat.
The One Day Outdoor Retreat is designed to help mothers and daughters connect and communicate in a calming natural environment. The Heart 2 Heart Retreat takes place Sunday from 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. at a private sanctuary in Eagle. It is intended for participants aged 12 and over who identify as a woman and their mother or surrogate mother. While it is optimal to participate in pairs, individual participants are also welcome to join in and learn new skills.
While mother-daughter pairs of all ages are invited to participate in the retreat, Kincade places special emphasis on relationships with adolescent girls.
“This is often when the relationship breaks down,” Kincade said. “Some of these tears are hard to heal, so we do preventative work, so they don’t have to permanently damage their relationship.”
This work includes trust and bonding exercises, as well as communication tools that enable mothers and daughters to effectively share their needs and perspectives.
“They just need language and tools – and if they both have the same language and the same dedication, then it becomes a team,” Kincade said. “Girls just want to be seen by their mothers as growing up, and it’s amazing how quickly through a one-day retreat, mothers who want to keep that bond with their child understand that their daughter is a growing woman. , and they just need to let it hang out for a bit so they can stay deeply connected.
Kincade has led the Heart 2 Heart retreat for seven years. She is a mother of four daughters and was inspired to create this program after struggling to bridge one of her own mother-daughter relationships.
“I had a pretty transformative experience with one of my daughters, who frankly was on a track where she wasn’t going to come out of high school alive,” Kincade said. “I had to learn to take care of her in a different way than I had with my other daughters because it clearly wasn’t working. I realized the only thing I could change was me, and it turned the whole relationship upside down. When I was ready to do my personal work, then she had space to become herself.
This year, Kincade will be leading the retreat for the first time in partnership with Lisa Hassin, Certified Counselor and School Clinician at the Hope Center in Eagle County. Hassin specializes in child development and family relationships – and during her 30-year career in mental health in schools, she has seen with her own eyes what can happen when central relationships of our lives are shattered.
“I see a big picture of what can happen if we lose contact with each other,” Hassin said. “I have a sense of where this can take us in terms of depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, dropping out – all those things that can happen that I have seen working in schools and working. in private practice for as long as I have, she said. “We help parents maintain this bond in a developmentally appropriate way by providing communication skills and eliminating social media for a day. “
Hassin and Kincade are both advocates of using nature in their respective practices, and the location of the Heart 2 Heart retreat is meant to facilitate introspection, calm, and connectedness while stepping away from the constant noise. and technological disruption.
“On the outside, you’re really encouraged to listen to yourself before you listen to each other,” Hassin said. “Nature is such an amazing mirror of” How am I feeling right now? “, and then we can teach people how to best express that to those they love the most.”
Kincade said that with her and Hassin, nature acts as the third retreat facilitator.
“Nature calms our nervous system when we go there as humans instead of humans,” Kincade said. “When we’re out in nature and just sitting in the perfect world of connectivity that we’re a part of, it helps us release some really positive hormones that make a workshop like this so much more effective, fun and beautiful. . “
Hassin is fluent in Spanish and for the first time, the Heart 2 Heart Retreat is available as a bilingual program for both English and Spanish speaking participants. The retreat will also address relationship and mental health challenges that have increased due to the pandemic.
“The pandemic has made us even more isolated from the world and from each other,” Hassin said. “We’ve looked to the media and technology in general to calm us down, but unfortunately it’s not very good. Healthy and supportive relationships are an essential part of our mental health. In this workshop, we will provide the tools to teach communication skills through fun activities that will immediately open doors that may have closed and remind us of the power and importance of our mother-daughter connection. It will restore hope.
Registration for the Heart 2 Heart Retreat is available at WomenEmpower.us. The registration cost is $ 175 per person. COVID-19 vaccinations or proof of a negative test within 24 hours are required for all participants.